I have touched on relationships, and food before, but I think it is always a good subject to return too. Just like other relationships, they are constantly evolving. In recent weeks, I have been chatting to people about relationships with food, and every time I am reminded of the impact it can have on our eating habits, and patterns. I was listening to someone speak last weekend, and they were talking about eating providing nourishment, and that nourishment in turn providing our foundations. I would go further, and add that I believe that from these foundations we can grow, and develop.
If you are reading this so far, and wondering WHAT relationship with food, and what I am going on about a few years ago, I would have been right there with you!! Before I quit sugar, I used to say I had a sweet tooth, or I was a comfort eater. But I didn’t really contemplate, why?! I got into the weight loss cycle, lost weight, gained it, followed diets, then didn’t, tried eating healthily, and then didn’t. Set myself the target of I must get back to the skinny weight I was at 21!!! All along I was hoping for some miracle. Yes, I really hoped one day I would wake up 6 stone lighter!!! Not sure what planet I was on!!! But hey I’m a hopeful positive kind of person. Like many I saw foods as good, and bad, healthy, and unhealthy. Yet, I never stopped to consider why I ate what I did, the reasons for my comfort eating, the trigger for eating sugar, and the blocks I had to reducing my sugar/sweet intake. I really believe that sugar desensitised me. I have since read that the brain is the most sugar hungry part of the body, so it is no wonder that I didn’t think to much about what I ate. My brain told me I wanted sugar, and I ate it! I am not making excuses for my sugary eating, it was totally my choice. No one forced me to eat the doughnuts, chocolate, and fizzy drinks, I take full responsibility, and at the time I enjoyed it. The thing is with sugar once you quit you realise, how much a part of your life it becomes. Just like any bad relationship there are always those reminders around, making it hard for you to end the relationship. Once you break free you realise that it wasn’t so good for you after all!
Just like so many things in life there is no right, or wrong answer. Everyone’s journey will be different, however just like every journey, by exploring the route you take, you can gain a valuable insight into what you do next. By doing so this will empower you along the way. When contemplating your relationship with food, most especially sugar, it can help you to contemplate the following?
- What were your meal time/eating experiences as a child?
- How often do you eat sugary foods?
- Do you stock up on sweet treats, when you are out and about?
- How long does a bar of chocolate last you?
- When was the last time you went without desert?
- Do you eat sugary treats when you are angry, sad, frustrated, depressed, lonely, or tired?
- What would stop you from quitting/reducing sugar?
- Are you aware of how much sugar is in the foods you eat?
It is not always easy to be honest to talk or thinking about our eating habits. I know in the past I have felt embarrassed, or a shamed. It can be a very personal, and sensitive, especially if like me you have struggled with your weight. BUT it is NOTHING to feel embarrassed or ashamed about. For years I was in this relentless cycle with my eating habits, it was like a vicious circle. I kept reading, or hearing about others experiences with weight loss, and wondered why it didn’t work for me. I felt so worthless, that I didn’t match up to everyone else. It’s tough not being good enough, a feeling I have battled with for years, however I’m getting there!! I took me quitting sugar to realise that all this. Once I quit sugar, I started evaluating my ‘relationship’ with food, and realised a lot of triggers I had, the habits that had formed, and how my journey didn’t need to be like everyone else’s!!! Believe me it felt good to rip up the SUGAR FREE RULE BOOK, and do it myself!! It felt even better, when it started to work, and now a couple of years on when I hear this is working for others too, it is truly heart warming. I am not knocking for a minute other peoples sugar free work, anything to raise awareness is GREAT. However some of the plans, and ideas didn’t work for me, which is why I did it MY WAY. I am the first to admit, it isn’t the healthiest way, it’s definitely NOT perfect. But it does and it HAS worked for me for 2 and a half years. Just like all relationships my relationship with food, and sugar is a work in progress!!! But it is progressing, and I have a much healthier relationship with food than I once did. Going SUGAR FREE is so much more than what you can, and can’t it, understanding our relationship with food, is I believe the key to becoming A PRACTICALLY SUGAR FREE YOU!
Much love, and good luck,
Tracy xxxx